Get Back In The Dating Game

Learn how to get back into the dating game by making your schedule more accomodating to potential sweethearts.

By Randy B. Hecht

hat’s worse than scarfing a frozen dinner at home, alone, every night? How about chowing down on fast food at your desk as you log in yet another evening of overtime?

If working overtime has made you think a date is something you mark on your time sheet and set up a conference call for, try these 10 ways to get
Are you really overworked, or are you hiding behind your job to excuse your lack of dating?
your romantic life back into your schedule:

Assess the situation
Figure out why you’re working so hard and whether the situation is temporary — and perhaps holds a big payoff for you — or there’s no end in sight. Is your company or boss overly demanding? Are you covering for unproductive co-workers or superiors? And are you really overworked, or are you hiding behind your job to excuse your lack of dating?

Never go straight home from work
Go to the gym, browse a bookstore, unwind at a bar—spend a little time, even if it’s just a half hour, anywhere with people who aren’t your co-workers.

Commit to going out
Subscribe to a concert or dance series; buy season tickets to your favorite team’s weekend home games; sign up for volunteer work. Again, what you’re doing is less important than just doing something. And if you’ve spent your money in advance, you’re more likely to make it out of the office and to these social commitments.

Get active
If you sit at a desk all day and collapse onto the couch when you finally get home, your inactivity is sapping your energy. Get moving and get energized
Remember, all work and no play makes you a dull conversationalist.
again. You’ll look and feel better, and if in the process you drop a few pounds and look a little more sexy, you might find yourself more in the mood to get back out there.

Join a professional association
Besides meeting people with similar interests, you might even pick up some pointers on working more productively in fewer hours so you can enjoy more free time.

Pursue a hobby
Whether you enjoy reading, photography, music or skydiving, having a hobby will give you something more interesting to talk about than your job. Remember, all work and no play makes you a dull conversationalist.

Get a mini-makeover
Sometimes the littlest thing — a manicure, facial, a new haircut or outfit — can renew your appearance. And that reinvigorated you might just catch the eye of someone special.

Snap out of it!
OK, maybe you’re a “live to work” kind of person. But more likely, even if you love what you do, you want a career and a life. Remember Senator Paul Tsongas’s wise comment about how no one on his deathbed ever wished he’d spent more time at the office. You know what your priorities are—give them their just due!

Never stop looking
Heck, you’re here at your PC right now. You need look no further than to find plenty of eligible singles who are eager to find someone to date. And at least one of them probably is looking for someone just like you.

Ask someone out!
Once you’ve located your prospective match, make your move. You never know when a first date will be an introduction to your elusive soul mate!

Randy B. Hecht is a freelance writer who frequently contributes to Happen
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